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Comment on Doing Michel Martin's "Tell Me More" Tomorrow

2010-07-26T18:55:43Z

Debra -- I just heard the too short segment on NPR. I've been wondering what happened to you -- I used to enjoy your essays in Salon. The show didn't say exactly what your and Ms. Gannon's bottoming out issues were. I think they said something about health issues. As someone who was always self-sufficient and a working dynamo before being hit with a chronic illness, I can relate.

Comment on Doing Michel Martin's "Tell Me More" Tomorrow

2010-07-22T16:51:42Z

CEO? Darn, I was looking to get hold of the CFO, and make a bid to take over the accounting side of things ...

Comment on Black racial hypocrisy?

2010-07-22T16:39:47Z

Here's my two cents and I'm out cause as a Black woman, I have grown so utterly weary of this discussion. Believe me, I have some idea as why SOME, not all, Black men date and marry White women. However, I will keep those to myself because I don't have the time to expound on that nor will I make a point to double back to this thread to read responses. I'm just taking a quick break and came across this from Google.

I find it interesting that SOME, NOT ALL Black men have a tendency to speak about being with a White woman as if Black women don't have any other options other than them. And NO, it's not going out and getting a White dude (unless that's what she wants to do).

Furthermore, I want all of the Black women on this board to realize that harping over the percentage of Black men who date White women is a waste of energy, instead concentrate on the ones who do as there are plenty. Also, keep in mind that the Pew Research Center stated that the marriage rate in America is actually on the decline and other stats have pointed out that the most common marriage these days are between divorcees who are trying it again. What's the point here? For every Black woman mad at that BM for dating a White woman, be patient. He may be divorced just when you need the most. LOL! (I hope everybody caught that bit of humor. Just trying to lighten the mood b/c based on the comments, it's a little tense.) That is all.

Comment on Brother, Can You Spare a Cone?

2010-07-21T23:59:06Z

Outstanding! Definitely tugs on my heartstrings.

With your abundant talent, you too good to remain on the sidelines much longer.

Comment on Black racial hypocrisy?

2010-07-14T03:14:19Z

I had no intention of commenting but just wanted to say to Amused: Thank you. Solely for the line "I'm not yours". I'm in an interracial marriage and I had to write an entire book just to get all of this out of my system. I cannot stand the fact that anyone conjures up or interrogates reasons when it comes to relationships, particularly one as paramount as marriage. Opinions can be had on a case-by-case basis if one must but I cannot stand to hear about or talk about the evils of Black men dating outside their race anymore than I can stand being stared down when I walk around with my husband. We. Do not. Own each other. And sidenote, when will Black people choose to become citizens of a country we helped build - no forgetting or overlooking institutionalized racism but no continuance of segregation either. I don't need a REASON to love my husband. And I don't need to explain it. So consider what I say as proof that I care enough about my society to put myself through the irritation.

Comment on Black racial hypocrisy?

2010-07-14T00:33:24Z

to Black women: I'm not 'yours', my individual sovereignty means I don't belong to anyone. Which makes the source of ALL of your premises flawed.
Narcissism- you are at the center of every Black mans life or should be. You are the point of departure. A Black man's life isn't for him to lead his sole purpose is to serve and affirm you and (the evil part) if he doesn't he has no humanity in your eyes.
Delusion- You have a say or control or can do something about the choices men make and who they fall in love with for whatever reason.

The one thing you can't bring yourselves to admit (and probably why you're having so much trouble with finding it) is that any particular man you despise is in love. It undercuts your entire premise (flawed as it is)

Here's the truth- of all the women I dated African-American (not Black foreign) were the ONLY ones who cared about the racial make up of my dating history. The question usually came out in the first conversation. Once they found out it wasn't exclusively Black, they bounced. But because of the choices & options they were not missed. They weeded themselves out, saved me lots of time and I never suffered. Wonderful & healthy dating then happily married. So play that game all you want, it's a losing game and blame no one but yourselves for not being able to connect in a world full of men, simply because of your narrow view.
Get with your girls and amen, yeah girl all you want. The rest of the world is moving right along. The choice is yours.

Comment on Black racial hypocrisy?

2010-07-14T00:16:43Z

'overweight White girl? With the obesity rate such as it is in the Black community, you're kidding right? The majority of Black American wives (of Black men) I see are overweight.
If you are happily-married then the sight of another man & his wife shouldn't conjure up ANY negative feelings. Hopefully your feelings about you and your husbands love would be enough. But seems love can't overcome racist attitudes. Not generally racist? Far more than you know.

Comment on Black racial hypocrisy?

2010-07-14T00:03:42Z

I'm amused reading all this nonsense. You realize that the 'evil-eye' or any public displayed rant means nothing. After my wife (Blonde, green-eyed) and I have our tranquility interrupted by a public-square terrorist we move on and continue our day. Later we laugh about the foolishness, have dinner make love and spoon to sleep. So this idea that you've won some victory is childish. What's funny is most White women aren't even trippin' they usually don't notice unless it's pointed out. So most of it is in your head. Conjure up ALL the convenient self-serving logic you want but after the amusing stare down, head snatch or flippant comment- then what? Answer: At the end of the day, absolutely nothing: That man & his woman are long gone and you're still trapped inside your head.

Comment on In Which I Blow Off Don Imus

2010-07-13T23:36:39Z

Likewise on the tech probs - haven't got a clue who/what Imus is, tho, so I can't say I missed it

Comment on In Which I Blow Off Don Imus

2010-07-13T16:59:17Z

Prof Dickerson,

Missed you on Imus this morning. Hope you'll be on soon!

Hope, too, you solve your tech probs!